Ep 2 | Can You Honor Your No Without Needing Validation From Others?

Written By Courtney Koester

Navigating the complexity of boundaries and the courage to say "no" is a profound journey of self-connection. In this episode, I share my personal reflections on the difficulty of recognizing and honoring the boundaries of my body, particularly when external pressures or past conditioning make it challenging to assert them. I explore the emotional and somatic processes that accompany saying "no" — from the confusion and dissonance of feeling misaligned, to the eventual realization that honoring myself is necessary for genuine connection with others. This conversation invites you to reflect on your own relationship with boundaries, the tension between self-care and caring for others, and how we can learn to trust and align with our inner wisdom.


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Key Topics Discussed:

0:00:00 Intro

0:05:43 Recognizing and honoring our "no"

0:11:21 The process of realizing and expressing boundaries

0:16:28 Learning to trust oneself without external validation

0:21:36 Anxiety and fear in honoring personal boundaries

0:26:16 Navigating personal storytelling


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